Saturday, August 8, 2015

The Sacredness of Keeping the Secrets





Every one has a secrete in life and no one knows about it. Only the person, his conscience and God in whom he believes knows about it. He is very careful about its handling and preserving it because he believes that everything revolves around it. If the secrete is out then he might lose control over everything and even grip on his person might go lose. The secrets are held very dear to one’s heart and it looks like the whole human life of his moves forward with secretes. There are personal secretes and there are those, which we come to know about the others in our capacities as leaders or authorities. 
These secretes are made known to us in order to help the person to deal with a particular situation or event in life. These secrets could be positive or negative.  The leader and authority hold a very important place in a community or a group. They come to know about the secretes of others, they have to be very careful when they speak or deal with them either in actions or words. If they use or abuse these secrete, can destroy the person and his life can be thrown out of gear. If one shares a secrete in order to get moral or fraternal support but one sees that it is misused then it is nothing but a murder of ones personality.
It is sad that today many leaders and authorities don’t know how to keep secretes about the subjects or those who come to us for counseling and guidance. It is open secrete that many of us would like to glory in others defects and weaknesses. In my capacity as a General councilor I come to know many things about the friars but I cant be going on the housetops and proclaim to the whole world. I know that I should never talk about them unless for the good of the person with whom it is connected. Only at the right moment and right time for the well being of the person the leader to should make it know with the permission of the person.
We see today that some of our secretes are made known to outsiders who then take advantage and try to blackmail us. The secretes are let out of jealousy and envy about the others forgetting the harm that is caused by it. The secretes made known can destroy fraternal bond and relationship and will never allow us to achieve union and communion among others. We are bound by our moral responsibility to respect the persons and the fraternity in which we live. Without the proper permission of the authority we should never divulge anything to outsiders at the cost of relationship.  There are persons who thrive their personalities on letting out the secretes that they come to know to others.
If a person comes to know that his secretes are known to the people, he goes through a bad feeling and feels guilty and low. He then acquires an attitude of being guilty of something, he bends low to everyone and feels that he is a great sinner and cannot be like other good people. He loses control over the situations in his life. He regrets that he shared the right things to a wrong person who doesn’t deserve to be part of his life. He begins to feel that he is at the mercy of the person with whom he shared the secrete all through his life.

It is time for all of us to respect the sacredness of the secretes that we come to know about the others in our capacities as leaders. Let us not make a negative use of it. Don’t even try to use them for our own advantage. We need to keep them secretes and help the person to come out of those negative situations. Don’t share with persons who would in turn share with someone unworthy. If it goes from person to person then the whole town would know about it.

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