Every
one has a secrete in life and no one knows about it. Only the person, his
conscience and God in whom he believes knows about it. He is very careful about
its handling and preserving it because he believes that everything revolves
around it. If the secrete is out then he might lose control over everything and
even grip on his person might go lose. The secrets are held very dear to one’s
heart and it looks like the whole human life of his moves forward with secretes.
There are personal secretes and there are those, which we come to know about
the others in our capacities as leaders or authorities.
These secretes are made
known to us in order to help the person to deal with a particular situation or
event in life. These secrets could be positive or negative. The leader and authority hold a very
important place in a community or a group. They come to know about the secretes
of others, they have to be very careful when they speak or deal with them
either in actions or words. If they use or abuse these secrete, can destroy the
person and his life can be thrown out of gear. If one shares a secrete in order
to get moral or fraternal support but one sees that it is misused then it is
nothing but a murder of ones personality.
It
is sad that today many leaders and authorities don’t know how to keep secretes
about the subjects or those who come to us for counseling and guidance. It is
open secrete that many of us would like to glory in others defects and
weaknesses. In my capacity as a General councilor I come to know many things
about the friars but I cant be going on the housetops and proclaim to the whole
world. I know that I should never talk about them unless for the good of the
person with whom it is connected. Only at the right moment and right time for
the well being of the person the leader to should make it know with the
permission of the person.
We
see today that some of our secretes are made known to outsiders who then take
advantage and try to blackmail us. The secretes are let out of jealousy and
envy about the others forgetting the harm that is caused by it. The secretes
made known can destroy fraternal bond and relationship and will never allow us
to achieve union and communion among others. We are bound by our moral
responsibility to respect the persons and the fraternity in which we live.
Without the proper permission of the authority we should never divulge anything
to outsiders at the cost of relationship.
There are persons who thrive their personalities on letting out the
secretes that they come to know to others.
If a
person comes to know that his secretes are known to the people, he goes through
a bad feeling and feels guilty and low. He then acquires an attitude of being
guilty of something, he bends low to everyone and feels that he is a great
sinner and cannot be like other good people. He loses control over the
situations in his life. He regrets that he shared the right things to a wrong
person who doesn’t deserve to be part of his life. He begins to feel that he is
at the mercy of the person with whom he shared the secrete all through his
life.
It
is time for all of us to respect the sacredness of the secretes that we come to
know about the others in our capacities as leaders. Let us not make a negative
use of it. Don’t even try to use them for our own advantage. We need to keep
them secretes and help the person to come out of those negative situations.
Don’t share with persons who would in turn share with someone unworthy. If it
goes from person to person then the whole town would know about it.
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